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Reflection

Half Way Mark – Goals

Goals It’s July and it’s time to start looking at our goals that we set in January and see how on track we are. I know that my monthly review, the fact I can see them in front of me everyday, and my consistent work on them has been great. I have missed the mark on some, but I might be able to salvage them. Let’s review!

Life Goals

I set up nine life goals this year – things I wanted to tackle in my personal/home life. Some were pretty far reaching and others seem really doable. Here’s the rundown.

Paint the Front Door – hasn’t happened yet, but I’ll be doing it this fall. (I didn’t realize to do it right you had to take the door off! Good to know!) Deciding between yellow and teal right now. Status: In progress.

Easy Garden – this didn’t happen at all. At all. We traveled in April and May and we didn’t get it started. We are going to plant 3 blueberry bushes in our garden this fall and I will look at some fall gardening. My goal is to spend this winter really figuring out how I can do the bare minimum, but get good peppers, cucumbers, tomatoes and zinnia’s next year. Status: Fail? Sort of.

Coffee Dates with Friends – This has totally happened. One a month. Although I haven’t documented it anywhere but my calendar I am thrilled to be making time with people I care about. Friendship takes time to make new memories and I am committed to doing this. Want to set up a coffee date? Connect! Status: Win!

Ozark Highland Trail Hike Overnight Hike – YES! I did this! My daughter and I hiked overnight on the Ozark Highland Trail. I have ZERO hiking experience and at that point had only been walking the dog sporadicly. We didn’t buy any fancy equipment and just used what we had. I am so proud of us for committing to doing it even though we were so green… oh, and we saw proof that a bear was near us while we slept… so that happened! Status: Win!

Sit with Natalie Goldberg – Natalie is the author of Writing Down the Bones – the book that changed my life – and the practice I’ve done for over 20 years. My friend Sarah and I are going to sit with her for 5 days in New Mexico in September. I’m slowly paying for this, month by month, but it will be all paid for by the time I arrive. What a way to celebrate my 47th birthday! Status: in progress.

Road Trip – I wanted to take a road trip with my husband that wasn’t work related. We decided to do a spur of a trip that was work related and went to Fairfield, Iowa to see the largest Ayurvedic community in America. It was like hippy spiritual paradise and I’m thrilled we did it. Status: Win!

Eat Less/Move More – Who knew when I made this simple goal that I would radically change my entire lifestyle? I knew in January I needed a change – I just didn’t know how major. Status: Win and in progress – forever!

Make Art Make Art – This goal is really to use the supplies I have collected over the last 20+ years and just do it. I’ve done 6 paintings, am working with watercolor, filled one sketchbook, took a photography class and am exploring figure drawing, contour drawing and urban sketching. I fit time in between working on projects on the computer and at night before or after doing some yoga. It has been so good to just make things and spill my creativity out. Status: Win!

The last goal was blank – and that meant leaning into life as it happened, being open to new ideas or projects. I’ve tried to and will continue to allow for more room for things instead of tightening up (no one really likes a tight, closed off person).

Next up I’ll review my business goals! I believe that setting goals gives you a path to work towards instead of just ricocheting through life like a pinball. We choose our path and with integrity we walk down it.

A Goal Check In and Monthly Reflection Questions

February Reflection It’s the end of the month and it is time to do a little reflection on what worked and what didn’t. (Tomorrow is Leap Day which should totally be a national holiday just because it is so cool.) I have some goals that I’m working on and I thought I’d check in on those and share the 5 questions I use to go over how the month went and to reset the next month.

Personal Goal Check In:

Road Trip: I’ve taken one on my own, but I have yet to plan one with my husband. April is looking like a good time so I’ll start this month making that happen. (So, nope.)

Overnight Hike: We were all set to meet with a friend to talk through this and then we got snow. Have to get on this to get out before May. (Nope.)

Eat Less and Move More: Honestly I am a weenie with cold weather, but I did make an appointment with a personal trainer for March 7th. (Progress.)

Easy Garden: It’s still winter. I’m not stressing. (Nope.)

Sit with Natalie Goldberg: I’ve put the deposit down and am all set to go to Santa Fe in September with Sarah. I am so excited to make this lifelong goal happen. (Happening!)

Make Art: I’m totally making art. I’ve completed four pieces and I’m working on my fifth. It is so fun to just work with all the supplies I’ve had all of these years. I really like how they are all turning out. If you want to see, follow me on Instagram, I show them there as I work on them (usually in terrible lighting because I sneak in working on art in the evenings). (Happening!)

Coffee Dates with Friends: This has happened! I’ve had a coffee date every month with someone that I love love. It has been so good to make this happen. Every single time my heart fills up with happy. (Happening!)

Paint the Front Door: This will happen when it warms up. Still leaning towards yellow. It just seems happy. (Nope.)

Score Card: Nope’s: 4 vs. Yep’s: 4 – not bad for February

Keynote Speaker Business Goal Check In:

Speak at 6 New Events: I just got back from speaking about branding at the Oklahoma Women’s Blogger Mini Conference which was a great opportunity to meet new women. One woman said she decided to go to the conference because she knew I was speaking. Nice to hear! (I’ve spoken at 2 new events so far this year – 4 to go.)

Finish Book: Honestly. I just need to schedule this in my planner. Writing time. I think I can have it done by May if I schedule it in.

Find Agent: I found who I would like to work with and now I am sort of stalking them online. You know, like a creeper.

Create 4 New Passive Income Products: I have two that I am playing with and a whole new business idea which is big and awesome. I’m thinking about pitching it at a 60 Second Pitch contest, but I’m hesitant to let my idea into the world not fully formed. We shall see.

Twelve Guest Posts/Interviews: I have an interview request in my inbox and I guest posted on Jerusalem Greer’s beautiful blog. 10 more to go.

Find a Mentor: Nope. No nibbles. No idea of who this would look like. Can I find a Cheryl Strayed, Oprah, Brene Brown, Shonda Rhimes, Elizabeth Gilbert mash-up? That would be amazing. Is that you?

Build Reputation/Relationship: I had an epic fail of this a few weeks ago. I literally made someone want to run away. Really. It wasn’t pretty. SO, I realize that this work is ongoing. It’s funny. I’m not interested in being nice just to be nice, but I am interested in being kind and listening more than I talk. Remembering that in the moment is what is needed. Work in progress for sure!

Build Webinars: I’m at one a month and I just need to do two a month. This can happen. Easy. Peasy.

Score Card: Nope’s: 4 vs. Yep’s: 4 (Remember, goals don’t happen all at once. They are works in progress.

Succulents for Spring #30DayChallenge Progress

This month I did a challenge to LOVE MY PLANNER. I know that sounds silly, but when I don’t use my planner I don’t stay as focused. In January I had terrible allergies and then a massive cold and I just resented my planner. In February I wanted to love it, work it, write in it and be one with it. I was about an 85% success with this. There were days that I didn’t want to love it – a planner means you have to plan and get shit done and some days you don’t (or at least I don’t) want to do that. Mostly, though, I was on it. I was more focused. I set up a Bullet Journal to handle ongoing notes (a comp book with an index, nothing fancy) and I really dove into planning my days. Stuff got done. A lot of stuff. Yay for challenges that remind you that habits make a difference. If you want to do a #30DayChallenge we have a great, supportive, free Facebook group you can join. Just email me asking to join.

Artwork in Progress Questions to Reflect on the Month

One of the biggest differences of successful people and, really, just people who are moving forward in a way that you can tell is that they set aside a little time to reflect on how things are going. This doesn’t have to be an epic session. This can be a cup of coffee worth of reflecting time.

  1. What were last month’s wins? What made you feel like a success. These could be REALLY small things like being on top of your laundry or big things like getting a grant report in on time.
  2. What is leftover from this month that is lingering and just needs to get done? This could be a project that didn’t get finished or one that didn’t even get started despite the best intentions. These are things that you still want/need to do.
  3. What did you plan to do that you just need to let go of? Sometimes we have great ideas that really don’t continue to get us excited. Maybe its a relationship, a feeling that we are carrying around or a project that just isn’t working. Can you list it and just ditch it?
  4. How did the month, overall, make you feel? Yep. Let’s get touchy feely for just a minute. Were you sick and you just couldn’t get your mojo on? Were you on fire for most of the month and so happy that you could burst? Maybe you had on again and off again days? Spend a little time thinking about how you felt overall.
  5. Summarize the month over all. Just a paragraph, emoji, thumbs up, whatever it means to you to summarize your month so you can move onto the next month feeling better about your life and work.

Whew. That’s a lot. I just wanted to be honest here this year about how things are going with my goals and show you the process I take for myself to close the month out. You can’t do all of the things (which is why my goals are reachable), but you can take stock of what is working and give yourself a moment to reflect on where you want to spend your time and energy. This is your life. Live it with intention and see what path that brings you down. I know that it has added to my happiness (which is all I’m really pursuing!)

2015 My Little Word

Love My Little Word 2015

Last year my word was True, which truth be told, didn’t resonate or feel as strong as I thought it would. We had our moments, but it wasn’t the most powerful word that I have chosen. Which is ok. I came to a few deep truths and maybe, just maybe that is the point of 2014.

My 2015 Little Word

It’s time to move into 2015 and my word is love. I resisted this for a month or more. It seems so sappy. So obvious. So hard. But the more I thought about it (and I thought about it WAY more than I should have probably) it kept coming back.

I want to love my work. This year I had moments of feeling disengaged and when I reengaged it was awesome. I love what I do and just need to keep focused on that.

I want to love my body by moving more. I was gifted headphones for Christmas and I plan to shake my booty a bit more! I also want to rethink my eating and overall health and love my choices all of the time.

I want to love when I don’t want to love. (See. I told you this is hard.) I want to love people where they are not where I think they should be. I want to love moments as they are instead of hoping for something different. I want to go back to love when I lose myself in the frustration of the everyday. This is the part of choosing love that I was resisting, but at my very core I want to be a presence of love.

I want to soften into love. I can be extremely driven and harsh. It’s part of the INFJ trait and it isn’t my favorite part of me. I don’t relax well or soften into situations. I look at things critically all too often. I want to continue to soften the edges and the only thing I can think that can do that is love.

I want to do a love project, share #goodlove with people, and explore what love means to me in all of its facets.

When I am frustrated by the news, the day, the people – oh the people – we have started to say “Love all the Colors” at our house. Which is funny and corny, but it lightens the mood and reminds me to love them even though they aren’t like me. Because although my 9 year old heart thinks the world would be better if it was just like me I know that isn’t true. It is the diversity of people and thought that makes the world amazing.

I want to push love where guilt, hardness, pain and suffering lie (usually in the depths of my mind at 2AM). I want to let it go with love. Which sounds VERY new agey, but I don’t have any other real solution to getting rid of the baggage that hangs around on a Tuesday night.

I want to share what I love. I want more people to know about meditation, living small, cottage living in a tiny house, making choices based on values and not money, new ideas, small town successes, marketing ideas, and all the things I know, read and learn about.

I want to do things I love, be with people I love, wear what I love and explore the world to find new things to love. 

12 Months of Love

The boxes at the top? Well, I found in 2013 when my word was focus that if I put a theme to each month I would concentrate more fully on my word. I didn’t do that in 2014 and I missed it. So, I’m bringing it back in 2015 with Love. The idea is to just write 12 concepts around your word and then randomly assign them to a month. I don’t overthink it too much. Then each month I figure out how I can bring that theme or idea into life.

Here’s to 2015 and exploring Love this year and I hope that you find your word to guide you through the year.

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