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A Month of Love Notes – For Your Business

Love Notes for Business Love notes. Thank you notes. Notes that inspire you. Notes that remind you who you are. Notes that you keep tucked in a drawer. Notes that you frame. That is what we are talking about this month because I believe that we need to share the love. We need to remind people that they are amazing. I think we need to give people the nudge towards seeing their own greatness. Notes. So simple and yet so big.

Let’s Talk Business Love/Thank You Notes

Let’s talk today about writing thank you notes for your business or in your job. With all of the hectic to do’s is there time to even do this? Does it matter? Do you like getting them? Who do you send them to? So many questions.

Who do you give notes of encouragement, thank you or love in your business? Honestly? Anyone.

Do you have an employee that is really rocking it? Write a quick note on real stationary and leave it on their desk. Just a few sentences can be uplifting. This isn’t instead of a raise or bonus, but on a random Tuesday.

Do you have a co-worker or team member that went above and beyond for you? Drop a note on their desk or in the mail and let them know. Again, this doesn’t have to be soliloquy. It can be “you rocked my world this week”. Simple and sweet.

What about a board member or boss who looked out for you? A quick thank you on real stationary can show that you saw that and that it mattered to you.

Notes for Folks Outside the Biz

Customers? Yep. Send them a note thanking them for their business.

Vendors who make your life a million times easier? Yep send a note even when they aren’t asking you for their bill to be paid.

Referrals? Sure. Did someone hook you up with a potential customer? Send them a thank you for the vote of confidence.

Speaking of confidence, did someone have coffee with you and give you some solid advice? Send them a note thanking them and sharing why their voice in your business matters to you.

It’s that simple. A few words on a real piece of paper or note card and you open up a whole other space in someones heart and mind.

The Love Note Challenge

The challenge is to write one business love note and get it in the mail. Let me know on Facebook or Instagram if you send it.

Why Do I Meditate?

Why Do I Meditate Often when I speak at an event or facilitate a group on branding, marketing or leadership development I talk briefly about meditation and I always have people who want to learn. I will, then, either do a quick session after I speak to those interested or schedule to come back to the group. I’m always happy to help people learn this tool that I have found so beneficial. What I get asked MOST often though is WHY do I meditate? What do I get out of it? Does it WORK? Let’s dive into my why:

Why Do I Meditate?

Not to be an Asshole: Literally. I meditate so I am less of an asshole. My first impulse, because I’m scrappy and the last child in my family bullied by older siblings, is to punch out with biting words or thoughts. I’m a jerk. I HATE this about myself and after years of therapy and countless self help books on how not to be so mean I realized that I could just calm that the fuck down. Seriously. I can chill out and if the thought arises I can just NOT SAY IT, but that takes the work of a jedi master and I needed a tool.

Hence, meditation. It gives me the second pause to not say the thing that will crush my opponent. Seriously, no one needs to live on a battlefield every damn day. Snarky isn’t funny and it isn’t cool. It usually is at the expense of someone else and I don’t want to hurt other people.

Destress the Hell Out: Life is stressful. Seriously stressful. In this month alone I have had a banking fiasco (digging out now), found out my daughter might have gestational diabetes – goodbye Lucky Charms, and they found a change in my left breast and I have to have more tests. Seriously. It’s only the 19th of January and life just keeps happening.

Mediation helps me breath past some of that and stay aware, but not panicked. I can sit with more anxiety and just let it pass then I ever have been able to do before. Life doesn’t stop coming at you when you start meditating, but your response can be a little less frantic and your clarity of thinking improves.

Be A Nicer Human: Ok, so we covered that I want to be less of an asshole, but I also want to be a better human. I want to say nicer things. Meditation, in real life, allows me to speak with more love and kindness because I am more aware of my words. Stuff isn’t just flying out of my mouth like a rapid fire crazy person.

Pre-meditation I would just say whatever. Now, although I am still clear and speak my mind I am choosing my words more carefully to consider the other person. We are all on this damn planet together and I don’t want to cause harm to any other person -we all have enough of our own shit going on that we don’t need to pile it on with each other. So words matter and if meditation can help me slow them from spewing out of my mouth carelessly that is a huge win.

Who Do You Want to Be When I Grow Up: I know that if I want to be a Ghandi or Martin Luther King type person (don’t worry, I know I am far far off) I have to do the things that create that foundation and, for me, that is meditation. The ongoing practice of sitting quietly with myself and not freaking out over what my silly mind brings up even for just 15 minutes brings a sense of strength and calm to my life.

I want to be that person who stands with competence, baddassery, and kindness in the midst of raging storms and meditation makes that even a little bit more possible. It’s a practice, like yoga or tae kwon do, you don’t master it in one sitting it takes time. Time spent practicing this is better then running around shopping needlessly, gossiping, panicking or running around like a chicken in the yard. I can’t BE like MLK unless I PRACTICE being like MLK every single day.

In short, I want to disrupt my natural tendencies to judge, react and panic. I want to bring calm and fluidity to my life with grace. The only way I have found that works for me is to meditate everyday. It isn’t a big thing. I’m not perfect… but I don’t expect to be. It’s a practice and every moment I’m off the cushion and life is shredding us up I get to practice over and over.

Ask me your meditation questions and I’m happy to answer. I’ve been doing it for over 25 years and have some really practical tips for busy working mom’s, stressed out partners, doing it anywhere, finding a practice that works… whatever you want to know I will answer. Until then, you can also friend me on Insight Timer and I’ll cheer your practice on.

One Word 2017: Kindfulness

kindfulness It’s time to share my One Word: Kindfulness. I unveiled it to my newsletter list this week and the Do Good Work Facebook group. After really thinking about what I want to unveil next year this mashup of a word kept coming back and it feels right. I have sat mediation for over 25 years and I need to take that off the cushion into real life. The timing seems right.

About Kindfulness

What is this mashup word? It is a mix of Kindness and Mindfulness. It is where I try to gather myself together to be present and be kind in real time. Most situations need more kindness not more angst. My tendency as an INFJ on the Meyers Briggs is to tighten up and my heart gets a little harder and a little colder. That isn’t healthy for me or for those around me. I don’t want to pretend everything is a-ok when it isn’t, but I want to be clear with my words and actions in a kind manner. Not fake, but not mean. Kindful.

Mindful Kindness in Action

What does it look like to be mindfully kind?

  • Gathering myself together when I enter a room/meeting/am with someone and being truly present.
  • Listening more than talking and when I am talking I am conscious of my words.
  • Giving more than taking.
  • Being aware of my own energy and what I am bringing to the table.
  • When frustrated, dealing with my own fear/anger/shit about it before unleashing it on the world.
  • Less venting.

Work It

The whole idea of the One Word only works if you actually work it. Picking the word isn’t the hard part. Remembering it is part of your world for the year is actually harder. This year instead of monthly themes/ideas using the word I am focusing on a quarterly dive.

  • January/February/March: Words – how Kindfulness works through my words
  • April/May/June: Actions – how Kindfulness works through my actions
  • July/August/September: Stories – gathering/creating stories of kindfulness
  • October/November/December: Amplification – boosting kindfulness into my world

I’m excited to dive in and continue to share how this One Word manifests itself during the course of the year in my work and personal life. Join the Do Good Work group if you want to be on this action for your own life!

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